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by  Siyabulela Sekeleni, born and bred in the Eastern Cape, rural boy through and through. Well adjusted, very adaptable, loves music and animals.Radiohead groupie. Find him on twitter @siyabulelas

Scanned through her profile a few months before the big date., one of those 3D scan things.  I had a date with a  person that would become part of my life forever.  Little did I know she would be my best friend and love of my life.  Sivuyise Ofentse Ramagogodi is her name.

I was anxious and excited, mostly scared. Her mother and I had broken up, we didn’t see eye to eye. I knew nothing about love and was just not ready at all. Yes, the date was with my daughter.

The  31st July 2006, the day  I was introduced to her at Parklane clinic at 18h02, life changed, priorities changed.  I was a father to the most beautiful girl in the world. She wouldn’t stop crying. The nurses said  “ubumphika lomntwana” (did you deny paternity?) a saying used when a child is the splitting image of you.

This is about my savior that walks the earth everyday. I wouldn’t be as happy and focused without her. We both love music. Must say am pleased!

There are many challenges in our lives though. She lives 40 km away.  I never reconciled with her mother. My access is controlled. I see her mostly on weekends..

But I would never trade my life. Nothing matters more than seeing her smile when we go for ice cream, to the zoo or just “vandalizing” music shops.

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