by Carol Surya | addiction and depression, bullying, suicide |
Bulling isn’t an inevitable part of growing up. Research shows that whether your child is being bullied, being the bully, or watching their friend being bullied, they need help. It affects everyone (even you as parents) and often has a major impact on children’s developing sense of self, school performance and self-esteem (even into adulthood).
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by Carol Surya | behaviour, communication, emotions, independence, siblings |
It helps to remember that because children are still developing, they are more vulnerable to any big change (i.e. like starting ‘big’ school, moving homes, cities, the birth of a sibling). Big changes (especially if not prepared for) may easily show up in negative behaviours and/or affect their emotional security (foundation).
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by Carol Surya | giving, poverty, social issues |
When children are given plenty of opportunities and encouragement to be generous, they naturally become more helpful and caring, developing loyalty and compassion for others. A good starting place to help children understand what it means to be generous is to teach them the importance of sharing, and talk about how you feel when you give.
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by Carol Surya | self-esteem, Self-esteem |
All children have a wealth of inner wisdom, creativity and problem-solving potential, if only we give them a chance to use them. Once you step back and allow more chances for independence, you’ll be amazed at just how capable they are.
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by Carol Surya | motherhood, parenting, parenting books, parents |
Without intending it, there are many things that we do and say about ourselves that are influencing our kids. At the same time, there are many daily “building-up moments” which you can use to help improve how you feel and talk about yourself, which can make a great difference to them.
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by Carol Surya | behaviour, child, communication |
By preparing our kids for life changing events, we are helping them to cope far better with the change, and teaching them that there are healthy ways to adjust to whatever life throws at them.
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by Carol Surya | anxiety, behaviour, communication, emotions |
The Garden Route fires took everyone by surprise. Children often experience trauma differently, as they are more sensitive and less able to express their feelings and needs.
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by Carol Surya | behaviour, bullying, communication, emotions, parenting |
When kids can’t find positive, useful ways to have their needs met or feelings expressed, they’ll inevitably turn to more unhealthy ways.
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by Carol Surya | being present, play |
Playing with your kids must be fun for you too. They know exactly when you’re enjoying yourself or not. It doesn’t have to be a board game – find things that you both enjoy – throwing balls, a “tea-party” or a hide-and-seek adventure in your backyard, walking around the neighbourhood…
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by Carol Surya | being present, play |
Is positive parenting simply about being ‘positive’ towards our kids? Is it about talking positively instead of negatively, or disciplining without loosing your cool? Actually positive parenting is being seen as an entire way of being that values growth, well-being, relationships and happiness, above all else.
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by Carol Surya | family, indoor, play |
One of the easiest and fastest ways for grown-ups to feel like kids again is to play games with them. It turns out playing games are actually really good for us. Here’s why:
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